Rules of a Diabetes-Compatible Table… Manners Count


This guest post was written by type 2 diabetic and chef Ward Alper. It originally appeared on his website, The Decadent Diabetic, and was republished on Information About Diabetes with permission.

I don’t like to keep secrets from you and don’t want to be indiscreet, but I am having more than a few love affairs. Yes, I admit it the affair is with a lot of people, YOU, the readers.
I have been writing about EATING and LIVING with Diabetes for over three years now. Some times when I don’t think I have anything new to say, one or more of you folks come running to my rescue.
Now like all love affairs, sometimes a heart gets broken. But love is love.

I see Diabetes Support and Information About Diabetes as my table. You are invited to sit down with me, enjoy a dish and discuss the world of Diabetes. But there ARE rules.

RULE #1- If you don’t like a recipe I have shared, please don’t make it for yourself. If you disagree with a suggestion I have made, don’t follow it.

One of you commented here:

“Wow, get a nice recipe and everyone jumps on it negatively. Thank you for this it will be a nice change from the boring breakfast we normally have. I like pancakes and it would be nice to be able to eat some with my family. Its a very nice change of pace.”

Gotta love her. How kind and brave of her to defend me.

Not to worry, starting with one of my first articles I clearly state: “not everybody loves an artichoke.” That goes equally well for fish, mushrooms, lamb, and the number of grams of carbohydrates in a dish. It is fine with me. Everybody has to figure out what works for them. How often have I said that before?

Last week one of the readers got all upset with the recipe I posted. He ended his comment with a rude remark. The interesting thing is the guy did not take the time to read the recipe, just looked at the picture. I know, it is a visual world, but it is a recipe. You gotta read it before you get upset...

RULE #2- Join our table, please. You are unconditionally welcomed here. Read what I have to offer and listen to the comments of others at the “table”, but you don’t get to be rude to your host or the other guests. I know that today under the cloak of internet anonymity, people say things on Facebook and other forums that they know would earn them a punch in the puss if they said it to anyone’s face. It seems to be open season for name calling and being less than kind. NOT AT MY TABLE! We are here to share, learn, and help make life better for ourselves and others. Rudeness has its consequences. I am a chef I have a thick skin. Over the years in the kitchen some people have not liked a dish I prepared. That is absolutely fine. There have been dishes of mine and others that I have not liked or were poorly prepared and have been sent back to the kitchen. It is how things are. But very seldom has anyone been rude to my face (no, not never). Their dinner was taken care of and ONLY if they were rude were they asked not to come back.

How is rudeness of any assistance to any of us. Having Diabetes does not give anyone license to be nasty. Aren’t things hard enough for us? Do we HAVE to be rude to one another?

The overwhelming number of comments are incredibly positive. My favorites have to do with having been of assistance to you. I can’t begin to tell you how much this pleases me.

“Who loves ya baby!?” Now take that Tootsie Roll Pop out of your face!

ENJOY!!! Be happy, be healthy, and BE DECADENT! –w

Ward Alper, The Decadent Diabetic